What To Expect At A Swingers’ Club

You are curious about the swinging lifestyle scene, you want to learn more and possibly meet other couples that are swingers, and you are considering checking out a local swingers club. It’s very natural and normal for you to feel nervous about going to a swingers club, as you do not know what to expect. Every club is different and the experience will mostly be dependent upon the people at the club and the type of experience you are looking for. Some clubs have an older crowd, some clubs have a younger following. Some clubs are more about dancing and mingling while others are about the sex and the playrooms.

Even with these variations, there are a few things you can expect to always find at any swingers club you decide to visit.

Friendly People

No need to worry about feeling left out and excluded when you visit a swingers club for the first time. The people there are generally very friendly and making friends will be the easiest thing to do, as long as you show an interest in getting to know others.


Everyone Is Respectful

It’s not a free for all grabbing and groping session like some would have you believe. People are generally very respectful and only do things to others when given permission. There may be isolated situations where one asshole violates this code of conduct, and those individuals are normally kicked out and never welcomed back. You will find that people at a swingers club are way more respectful than at a regular bar. The ladies can feel 100% safe wearing the skimpiest outfits, knowing that aggressive horny males will not harass them, whether their husbands are present or not.


Sexual Atmosphere

It is a swingers club. People here will be more publicly sexually expressive than normal. You will most likely see a lot of flirting, touching feeling and maybe a little bit of skin. PDA is very very normal and expected at a swingers club. Sex is normally reserved for designated areas called the “Playrooms” but everything in between takes place on the dance floor and lounging areas. Before long you will also be in on the action.


Outrageous Costumes

One of the best parts about going to a swinger’s club is that you do not need to wait for Halloween to dress up in a sexy costume. Feel free let your alter ego roam free. You will not be the only one. Many couples or individuals show up in sexy costumes, even when it’s not a theme night.



Yes. It’s a swingers club and there will be people swinging. Partner swapping is the main purpose of every swingers club so expect that you will see that happening. Feel free to observe or participate at will. Which ever you prefer. Just ensure that you and your partner have communicated your rules and boundaries and don’t do anything that was not discussed and agreed upon prior to coming to the club.


A Life Changing Experience

The one thing that’s guaranteed is that going to a swinger’s club will change your perspective on many things in your life. Not just sexually but your overall self-confidence and outlook on life. It will also change the dynamics of your relationship in one-way or the other. Swinging has made a lot of good relationships even that much more special, but it also has brought a lot of bad ones to faster endings.

If you are new to the lifestyle and considering going to a swingers club, be sure to ask other swingers in your local community what clubs they recommend for what you are looking for. You can find swingers and swingers club in your local area by registering for one of the many swingers dating sites