Realistically anything can be turned into a fetish; only depends on the wishes and preferences of a person. What starts a fetish? It’s a complicated topic to dissect, but according to Barnaby Barratt, Ph.D., a sex therapist and president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, “experts theorize that an experience with masturbation as a toddler – often one that has long been forgotten – could become a fetish object or scene that serves as a reminder. ”
Can having a fetish be harmful? Most experts agree that as long as you are to harming yourself or another, breaking the law, it is harmless to indulge in fetish activities. Moreover, if a certain fetishist needs his obsession every time they have intercourse to achieve orgasm, it may not be very practical. Depending on what the fetish is, it can be a real obstacle to the development of any real intimacy with another person. Society puts a stigma in most fetishes but as a whole we have become more responsive to individual preferences. Most people do not discuss their fetishes outside of their specific circle of individuals with similar interest. Not because they are ashamed, but mostly due to the fact that most average person would not understand these fetishes and may be quick to judge.
So what are the most popular items these days in the world of fetishism? Let’s take a look.
1. Domination and Submission
Dominance and submission is a part of an acronym Most people may be familiar with called BDSM. It stands for bondage, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. The dictionary defines dominance and submission as “a set of behaviors, customs and rituals that involve the delivery of one individual to another individual control over them.” Involves the exchange of energy between two consenting adults. This can be in the form of a one-time occurrence, a specific part-time or full-time agreement situation. The submissive does what it requires dominant within their agreed limits of comfort.
According Debby Herbenick, sexual health educator at the Kinsey Institute and author of Sex Made Easy “BDSM is a huge umbrella term for a wide range of activities, from the fuzzy handcuffs you can buy in a sex shop oriented women more extreme sexual dungeon setup. “Interestingly BDSM has become more dominant within the last 20 years as evidenced by the very popular novel 50 Shades of Grey. More than you seem to have a predilection for these behaviors, which is why it has ranked number one on our list. Next time you’re at the grocery store waiting in line, take a look around. You never know who may be enjoying this particular “fetish or kink.”
2. Sexual Role Play
Sexual role-play involves two or more individuals acting out different functions in a sexual scenario. It can be any type of sexual fantasy. It can be as complicated as individual participants want. Couples may choose to act the role-play out in a specific place, dressed in elaborate costumes or using different accessories. These may be people who take a participating role or a spectator. Technology has now led to the possibility of sexual role on the Internet, so many individuals and couples are delivered. It’s not the same as the real thing, but allows a person with a specific fetish fantasy to enjoy a degree of anonymity.
3. Rubber Latex, Leather
This fetishism refers to those who achieve sexual enjoyment with the use or have your partner wear rubber, latex or leather material. They refer to themselves as “rubberists”. The tight material acts as a type of sexual slavery. For some, the smell of rubber / latex / leather can also be a turn on. The fetish can range from using more conventional types of items such as a cat suit to something more unusual like a gas mask.
4. Voyeurism, exhibitionist
According to researchers at the Institute of Carolina, one in three people liked seeing sex or exposed in public. Studies show that men are more voyeuristic than women with 12 percent of men who woke up while watching sexual acts compared to 4 percent of women. As demonstrated by the adult entertainment industry, 80 percent of its audience is men. Exhibitionism is a different story. How many of us have used the revealing clothes at one time or another, or our bodies showed off a bit in the gym or on the beach? There may be some exhibitionist in all of us. Although exposed and having sex in public is illegal, as a society, we seem almost encourage the existence of nudist beaches, fetish clubs, and even some festivals like Mardi Gras, where women are encouraged to flash their breasts for beads and trinkets.
Why do people like to be spanked? It has more to do only with the feeling of pain you feel. The buttock area to the rear of the thigh meets an erogenous zone considered and if contact with the right amount of pressure and frequency, which can lead to excitation for many people is made. Spanking causes a number of physiological responses. We can take our children make us feel loved or humiliated, many people find a turn. It can also be a part of domination and submission with partner management whipping taking full control. Whatever it is you enjoy about spanking, is a common fetish, so it is number five on the list.
6. Foot Fetish
Foot fetish is surprisingly common. It is the most common fetish party of non-genital body and non sex objects. Sigmund Freud offered the explanation that people develop this fetish due to the fact that the human foot is like a penis. No matter what the reason, foot worship is a popular fetish with 90 percent being male fetishists. It can involve one foot or feet, shoes and socks or stockings. Maybe it has to do with how we are connected with our brains react to different pleasure centers in our bodies. Even people who are not in this fetish can enjoy having their toes sucked occasionally.
7. Cross Dressing
People who wear clothing and accessories to look like the “opposite sex”. Cross-dressing is more common than you think, which predominantly affects heterosexuals and homosexual men. A variety of reasons for exchange of clothing; It may be that the person does not feel the sex you were born in a fit who they are as a person. You may wake up in the radical idea of taking something “forbidden” to them. You might just enjoy the different aspects of fashion are often not available to them in society. Cross-dressing has become more accepted by society in the last 10 to 15 years with shops and boutiques Internet Marketing specifically for transvestites. Transvestism has found its way into popular movies and TV shows, and including Some Like It Hot, Hairspray, Bosom Buddies, etc.
Part of what is called “Water Sports” in the sexual arena is Urolagnia, a more common than you think fetish. Urolagnia is the act of being awakened by the urine, if touch or smell it. It may involve the consummation or act of bathing in urine too. Common types of Urolognia include wetting oneself or watching someone else getting wet while fully clothed, watching the act of someone relieving themselves in the bathroom or even act as a human urinal, also known as receive or give a “golden shower”. It may involve the need to urinate in public or see someone else do it. What causes this kind of fetish? No one really knows what causes these associations and must be deposited in our brain, but individuals who are in this kind of fetish describe the feelings of release to public urination and regression to childhood where they feel “loved” when urinating or watch another “helpless” person. It also involves some elements of control and humiliation, especially when someone enjoys relieving himself or herself on another person.
Swinging is a non-monogamous behavior where couples in committed relationship mutually agrees to have sex with other couples for recreational purposes. The idea of swinging or experiment with group sex is often driven by the male in the relationship, research shows more than 75 percent of the time. This particular though it may seem that this type of behavior may present many problems such as, jealousy, and other obvious risk, a lot of couples actually claim that swinging has made their relationship even stronger. Some couples, however, point out that the act of swinging or falling into group sex does the opposite of them, increasing the confidence of women and allowing husbands to see their wives in a new light, strengthening its commitment to each other. It all depends on the couple and their reasons for participating.
10. Adult Babies
Adult babies are people who enjoy dressing up like toddlers. They can enjoy a partially or fully regression, to participate in the act of wearing diapers, being fed by an adult, suck on a bottle or pacifier, dressed in baby clothes, crawl rather than walk and talk the talk “baby”. Those interested in infantilism is the most likely enjoy the enriching aspect. They may be seeking attention or have too many responsibilities in their daily lives, and want to escape.