The word “swinging” came about when those known then as “wife swappers” needed an easier name to describe the activity of what was then called “wife swapping”. As “wife swapping” gained popularity and media attention in the 1950’s, the activity was changed to “swinging” and more recently “The Lifestyle”
Which leaves this big question. If the swinging lifestyle came from wife swapping, how does singles that want to be a part of this community fit in? We will touch more on that later-on in this article.
The roots of swinging came from U.S. Air Force fighter pilots during World War II. These men were wealthy enough to move their wives close to base, and the fact that their fatality rate was the highest of any branch of service led to an unusual social milieu in which non-monogamy between these pilots’ wives and other pilots became acceptable. These arrangements persisted near Air Force bases throughout World War II and into the Korean War.
By the time the Korean War ended, these groups had spread from the bases to the nearby suburbs. The media picked up on them in 1957 and promptly dubbed the phenomenon “wife-swapping.”
Supposedly there were also “key clubs” where husbands reportedly tossed their house keys into a pile in the center of the room where they were drawn at random by the wives. The owner of a selected key was the sexual partner for the evening.
Swinging was once mainly about couples. In the earlier years of swinging, all the major swingers’ conventions and swinger parties were couples only. Today a new generation of swinging, now known as “The Lifestyle” has evolved, and we are now starting to see a global acceptance and welcoming of singles into the community, especially single females. The evolution to of swinging to it being called “The Lifestyle” came about to include those couples who had other interest outside of hooking up with other couples. Those interest includes; voyeurism, exhibitionist, cuckolding, bi-curious couples and females, or even those couples who do not want to fully swap with another couple, but just looking to fulfill that threesome fantasy. Whether it is with another male or female. Hence the need and acceptance of singles into the lifestyle community.
Most couples today still prefer to be with other couples. For many good reasons. Hooking up with another couple rather than a single minimizes the risk of any emotional drama, as couples are normally committed to their married partner and not looking to fulfill any emotional void. This makes it way easier to enjoy casual sex without feeling the need for anything more. There are way more single men in that are interested in being in the swinging lifestyle, than there are single women. This is naturally expected. Most organizers or swingers events, or swingers’ club owners limit or do not allow single men at some of their events. Single females are always welcome.
The term “swinging” was first used by a Minister, who told his congregation there were weird people who were swinging back and forth from bed to bed, in the same manner as monkeys. He seemed to think they were doing something new but he was wrong! Even in Jesus’ time it was common and acceptable behavior for the wealthy to have many wives, concubines and slaves for their sexual pleasure. Several women rulers availed themselves of their power also, by keeping male slaves and consorts to satisfy their sexual needs and desires. What was considered new and weird in our present unenlightened sexually- controlled society has been considered normal and acceptable conduct by even early Christians as well as many other religions, cultures and civilizations in history.
Africa, Iran Egypt, China and Japan were among many countries that have lived a “swinging” lifestyle for centuries. In France, during Queen Marie’s time; wild orgies were the norm, until she lost her head for being a taker instead of a giver!
In more recent history, many world leaders — even those of the religious community have openly or secretly enjoyed their sexuality while trying to deny others the same rights and opportunities.
Ben Franklin was known to be a nudist, while enjoying his sexuality by “swinging”. In today’s moral mud-slinging climate, this brilliant statesman would not be allowed to hold a political office. The moral majority today would have hung him out to dry, just as they did Gary Hart! Today, people are only considered worthy of public office if they can almost be considered for sainthood! In many cases it’s just that they have been sneaky or secretive enough to keep their swinging natures from being known. (Adapted from “What Is The Swinging Lifestyle?”