Setting Up A MMF Threesome: a Ménage a Trois Guide For Women

The idea of having a “guest” in your bed has always appealed to both men and woman when looking for something new and exciting, but not wishing to cheat on a spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend.

 

When He Wants to Share You with His Best Bud

Inevitably it will come up in almost every relationship, one will ask the other if they’d be willing to have a “guest lover” for a night. Usually this involves someone you both might know, so be careful in your choice. I have found it works much better when it’s a stranger or distant acquaintance that you won’t have to deal with on a daily basis.

Note: after inviting another man to make love with you, that man usually feels less inclined to respect your wishes to remain platonic at work or at any other time. They usually think that since you allowed them to “lay” with you, they have rights to your body, usually placing their hand on your ass or a quick boob grab.

So How Do You Make It Work?

The Question:

It is essential that you approach this question from your boyfriend or Husband with an open mind initially. Usually, he already has been cogitating on this idea for quite some time. Generally, men will have already thought of a loose idea of what they want, who they want to invite, and not surprisingly, a very clear idea of your role in the “fantasy” as it is at this point.

Even if you’re completely turned off by the idea, it is best at this point to let him speak his mind. He obviously has it on his mind, and a flat rejection will not be helpful. Letting him unload his grand idea may even lead to spice in your current love life without having to allow a third party.

 

The Discussion:

After he proposes the question, you will want to encourage the discussion. At this point, even if the idea repulses you, it’s just talk. You’ll want to help him think it through carefully. Here are some of the questions that you’ll want to ask to help facilitate the discussion.

 

~ “It’s an interesting idea. Why don’t you tell me how you think the night would go?”

~ “How would you ask (the other guy) to join us?

~ “What do you envision happening? Do you have a specific idea or fantasy?”

~ “What would you want to see me in?”

~ “How would you want to share me?”

 

The list could go on, but the key is in asking open-ended questions (ones that can’t be answered with a yes or no).

Get a really good idea of what he’s thinking, and realize that this isn’t a 10-minute talk. Give yourselves plenty of time to discuss and come up with ideas and compromises if you aren’t into a three-way. You could suggest getting a big mirror so he can watch would be one idea.

 

Ground rules:

Provided you decide that the idea would be fun to try, a set of ground rules is essential for knowing the limitations. For example, on of my past lovers and I wrote the following set of ground rules, and the “guest lover” had to agree if he wanted to have me:

 

  1. Encounter will never take place at either party’s residence.
  2. All of us must take shower individually at location to ensure maximum cleanliness prior to sexual interaction.
  3. There will be no degradation, BDSM, rape or pain play
  4. There will be a “stop” word that all must abide by. When used, all sexual interaction must cease.
  5. Guest must use protection for vaginal and anal intercourse
  6. No pictures, videotape or audio recording
  7. No external encounters or sexual activities between guest and hosts of any sort without consent from all
  8. No party may divulge information of the encounter to any other person, in print or digital medium
  9. Guest will pay for all of his/her own expenses related to the encounter
  10. Identities are held in only the strictest confidence, and actual names will never be used before, during of forever after the encounter.

 

The Meet:

It is never wise to schedule the encounter on the first meet. There are just too many unknowns.The way we did it was that we had two meeting prior to the encounter. This allowed us to get to know each other and get comfortable.

 

Meet One:

We met for dinner and a few rounds of pool. We agreed that dinner would be used to learn more about each other without the inclusion of sex in the discussion.

Prior to having drinks and playing pool, my boyfriend and I agreed that this is the time for me to flirt, get him interested, talk about sex, and allow for low level sexual contact (brushing my butt against him, embracing, kissing, etc.…) During most of the evening, I was playing pool one on one with our guest. It was actually liberating and extremely erotic! I was totally into the idea at the end of the night!

 

Meet Two:

This time, we met at a movie theater. Watching a total chick flick was my idea and through the whole movie, there was some discrete heavy petting and groping! I was pretty ready to jump his bone by the end of the second night!

 

Meet Three (The Encounter):

We met again for dinner, and without turning this post into a sex story, the experience was more wonderful than I could have ever imagined! We had got a nice hotel.

 

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