If you are receiving this, I consider you a good friend and I know that you are in some type of relationship. This is not a mass email, it is being sent individually to people that have asked to read it, mainly our close circle of friends that are in relationships. Nobody is going to know about your business, I would not do that as a genuine friend.
First, here is the swingers club we visited: www.eyzwideshut.com.
Please take some time to read and learn about everything on the site, there are pics of the facility, a faq list and even a forum that may answer many of your questions. It will help to paint a picture of what it is like, and my personal review will perhaps lend some credibility if you trust my judgment as a friend. I know it’s not for everyone, but I honestly think it added even more spice to our intimacy, maybe it will do the same for yours.
Intro: Mz and I have been married for almost ten yrs. We work hard and play harder. Often described as a bit on the wild and crazy side but nothing over the top. Our philosophy on marriage is that if we are in this for life, leave no stone unturned! Worst case, if we try something and do not like it, we will not do it again and just chalk it up as an experience, for which we can say “we tried it.”
Being visual people, we had a slight curiosity about what it would be like to visit an adult oriented environment. We have done the gentlemen’s club thing before, toy shopping, porn, etc. You get the idea as I am sure you have probably done the same or at least discussed it. So I heard from some friends up north that “secret clubs” exist all over Florida. We did a little research about the Lifestyle, talked about it, and discussed our prejudices of what it might be like, it is only natural at first impression (what do the people look like, will they hit on us, do we have to participate, is it clean, etc.).
The initial plan was visiting Universal Studios in Orlando or Ybor City in Tampa just to do some dancing and hang out, then we thought….Eyz Wide Shut, even though it’s a swingers club, it is still a night club, we can go there to dance and just see what it is all about, at least our curiosity will be satisfied. I admit, this was WAYYY outside our comfort zone but sometimes you have to throw caution to the wind and Live….Don’t Exist!
Dressed like we would go to any other club, me; jeans and nice top, Mz in a nice dress. We get there about 10pm and the lady at the front desk explains the pricing and that there are two separate sections; “club and play.” Mz says “we will just go to the club section,” which is what we agreed upon at home. Maybe it was the several shots of tequila I had before we walked in, but I tell the lady “we will go to both sections!” Mz looks as me like, what? I say Babe, we are here now, might as well see what it’s all about, if we don’t like it we will just leave.” The lady says, “how about we give you a tour and then you can decide?” So we go on the tour and are pleasantly surprised, still a little unsure and slightly uncomfortable/nervous, we decide ok let’s give it a try……
Club Section: The club is very nice with modern furniture and décor, good music-very easy to make song requests. There is a pole in the middle of the dance floor with mirrors all around. Aside from the pole, it really is a regular night club/lounge. There is a large covered patio area with a privacy fence, they also have a pool table and air hockey.
Bar/Food: They have a full bar and the drinks are priced reasonably, however, me being me…we brought a bottle of Patron and put it in the trunk of our car, you can go back and forth to your car as frequently as you like once you have paid admission. They have a buffet included with admission; they served wings, shrimp, steak, fresh fruit, etc. When was the last time you went to a night club with a free buffet?
Crowd: Let me make it clear…these are outgoing, confident couples in relationships where trust and communication is not an issue! It is a “couple’s playground” but people who CHOOSE to participate in swinging can do so. The rules of etiquette are strictly enforced, this means that nobody will give you unwanted attention or make you feel uncomfortable. The crowd was diverse in terms of age (mid-20’s-50’s), ethnicity (white, black, Hispanic, Asian), and all body types. Generally speaking, everyone there was at least average looking, in my opinion. Basically, any and everyone would fit in there without being judged.
Price/Value: I think it was $25 per couple for only club access OR $60 for “club and play” access which includes a $10 monthly membership fee. They also have specials if you get there early or dress in theme. Considering the buffet and ability to keep drinks in your car, the price is commensurate with what a couple can expect to pay when visiting a typical night club. $60 per couple for club, food, etc….can’t beat it!
Staff: Everyone was very friendly and helpful in putting newcomers at ease; the ladies at the club desk,
the guys at the “play” desk, the security guys, etc. There was an attendant that gave us a tour
prior to paying admission so that we could decide about entering, very friendly and knowledgeable.
Play Section: There are metal detectors and no phones or cameras are allowed in this section, they have small lockers at the entrance to keep your phone, keys, etc. Dimly lit with some erotic artwork and sculptures, very tasteful. There is a long hallway with about 12 private “themed” rooms , each with nice furniture and accessories, fresh linens, towels, cd players, etc. Each room has a locked door and window that can be closed, leave the window open if you want to “put on a show” or leave the door open if you want others to come inside and watch, again no hanky-panky without express verbal consent and permission by ALL parties involved. There are unisex showers and fresh towels. The staff thoroughly cleans each room after every use, and will not allow anyone else to use them until so. They literally walk around wiping, spraying and disinfecting the whole time…very clean. There are also a few large lounge with a lot of leather sectional sofas, ottomans, chairs, sexual props, etc. and a few large beds setup in the middle of the room with all the walls covered in mirrors.
Now for the play-by-play….
As enter the club section, it’s nice, people are just mingling and dancing. We make our way over to the buffet and get some food then have a seat in one of the circular booths. Our nerves begin to calm, as we do some people watching and notice how diverse the crowd is. Some women are walking around and dancing in lingerie, not a lot but a few, these are probably the seasoned people. A couple asks to sit down with us…Uuttt oohh, immediately we begin to think…here we go! They were a friendly attractive couple, we made some light conversation telling them this is our first time and they told us about their experiences at similar clubs in Orlando and Miami….nice people just having good conversation. The DJ starts playing some songs that we were feeling, so Mz (thinking as if we are in a regular club) asks them “you guys wanna go dance?” Mz and I looked at each other like……Oh No! Are they gonna think we want to “get” with them? We go out and start dancing, they did not assume anything “more” about Mz’s invite. See our assumptions were wrong.
So me and Mz like to do our thing on the dance floor, I guess our chemistry is pretty interesting, because even at regular clubs people often admire us. We can sense people are really checking us out, but did not think much of it. We have another drink or two and decide we are feeling good and it is a nice atmosphere, so lets go to the “play” section. It is around midnight and everybody starts to head toward the adult section. We walk down the hall and see most of the doors and windows are closed, and a few are open, so by nature, we take a peek and see exactly what you think we would! Almost like watching a real life porno. Ok, again, outside our comfort zone but seeing other couples enjoy themselves is stimulating to “most” people, whether they admit it or not is a different story.
Then we go to the huge play lounge, there are couples sitting around on couches and chairs just talking, relaxing and some are making out. So we have a seat and are chilling, absorbing the whole scene. All of a sudden we see a couple start undressing and get on a bed that is directly in front of the couch we are sitting on…..we look at each other like “are they about to do what we think they are?” That is exactly what they started doing! We certainly are not used to being around other people while they are having sex, but it was intriguing. Then another couple undresses and before you know it, in every direction couples are getting it on, hardcore! We were not sure if there was any swapping going on, or just couples enjoying themselves while in the company of others.
I will not “bore” you with our specific activities, but after awhile “When in Rome, Do As The Romans Do!” Neither Mz or I are shy, in fact, give us a stage and we both tend to entertain which you probably already know by hanging out with us, just part of our personalities I guess. So we are doing “what we do,” honestly not even paying much attention to other people (but the mirrors, sights and sounds were stimulating), almost like we are at home in our own bedroom. This goes on for several hours in the lounge, couples are coming in and out from club to play section, some coming back several times. Now the only weird or slightly uncomfortable part was a guy near us saying “ooohh that is nice!” That threw me off! I am not used to a guy talking to me when I am doing my thing! He was not being creepy, simply acknowledged what we were doing and then just walked away.
Long story short we stayed until 4am! Was it kinky? Yes. Were we nervous at first? Yes. Did we have intentions on doing anything? No, not at all, we were just supposed to see what the club was about! Those “media imposed” negative things running through your head when you envision “swinger clubs” are not true. Ok, people do have sex, but it is not a creepy environment nor will it make you feel uncomfortable. We personally liked to watch people (voyeurs) and put on a show(exhibitionists), but you can still have a great time in a private room or simply enjoy the sexually charged atmosphere without having sex.
If you are the curious and adventurous type, I encourage visiting a Swingers Club, go as a couple or even as a group of friends looking to do something a little crazy and sexy….ok, maybe it is very SEXY. It’s just a night club with the option of some SEXY extracurricular activities. I tell you what, the Usher song “Make Love In This Club” has a whole new meaning now!
Our next goal is to take a vacation that offers a similar experience, but in an even more exotic location. We are excited about our upcoming trip to Hedonism II with Ladydee and Sarge for their Hedo Kamasutra Week event, happening the fourth week of January.